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Change the Channel on Your Tell-A-Vision

As we hear the echoes of a sequester impact on States and a climate of turmoil and uncertainty, I can’t help but think about my recent trip to Uppsala, Sweden. After my two hour plane ride from Moscow, I stood in line with seemingly hundreds of people from other parts of the world waiting to clear customs and there were no worried looks on their faces about the economy, be it local or global.

Someway, somehow the people here in Sweden (be it residents or tourists) didn’t get the memo, don’t read the paper, and won’t buy into the idea that if North Americans are shaking in their boots, they should be doing the same. You may have heard the old saying “when America catches a cold, the rest of the world catches the flu.”

Here’s the takeaway: it’s time to Flip the Script. Simply put, when everyone and everything is figuratively screaming gloom and doom, don’t buy into the hype. Walk the other way and take control of your inner steering wheel. See it differently and change the channel on your tell-a-vision.

Here are three ways to change the channel during this interesting time…

Grow the Economy of Your Mind. The greatest asset you have is your thinking. Dream Big. Envision even bigger. Right now. Yes, right now. Read books that uplift you. Magazine articles on Flip Board (Cool App in iPad) that stretch your thinking.

Surround Yourself with a Diversity of Thought. Look at your inner circle. Does everyone look like you, think like you and talk like you? If so, then you may be limited to what they know.

Learn another language. As the world is shifting right before our eyes, we need to be equipped with any and everything that will keep us relevant. I am starting to learn Spanish and it’s only as tough. I realize that it’s time to clearly graduate from halo (hello) and muchas gracias (thank you).

Oh Brilliant One, it’s time to change the channel and create a new tell-a-vision. The future awaits those who will create it moment by moment, minute by minute. Will you create it or allow something to project onto the movie screen of your mind the images that they want you to believe? Only you can answer this question.

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Three Tips to Think Differently

“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used to create them.”
That sage perspective comes from Father of Modern Physics Albert Einstein, and offers a practical explanation of which is Simply put, it’s using a fresh set of eyes to see the same thing as everyone else sees but to see it in a unique way or see a fresh opportunity for the first time.

In an era of significant global competition with the BRICS nations (Brazil, Russia, India, China, and South Africa), there is no room for being an anemic thinker. Men and women who will thrive in this decade will expand their knowledge bandwidth and think differently about their client solutions.

A Vuja de thinker is constantly scanning the environment to see where things are headed. They have a knack for reading the tea leaves of the times and thinking like a poker strategist. People who are use to deja vu thinking become robotic in their execution. Vuja de thinkers ask “why are we doing this and is there a better way?”

What about you? Do you Vuja de? Do you think differently? Do you see the future in the present or do you see what everyone else sees and accept it at face value?

Let me bottom line it for you thinking differently is the new killer app.Men and women who implement their own routine of mental gymnastics are constantly looking at business and life through the lens of Vuja de and saying enough is enough. Something has to change.

Here are three tips for you to think about:

Ask yourself when you are working on any task or assignment, “is this the highest and best use of my time?” If not, shift gears.

The person that “knows how” will have a job and the person that “knows why” will be the boss. If you intend to think differently, then you need to know how and why.

Develop thyself. Set aside time every week to learn, polish, discover or reaffirm what you already know. You are being invited to grow at the speed of change.

It’s time to think differently and shift into a new fresh direction.

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Stretch – The Most Important Skill in the 21st Century

In my travels I am hearing a reoccurring theme of people being stretched like never before. As the global economy continues to rebound, many individuals are attempting to find their true north. Some are happy, some are concerned about the future, and still some are just plain shell shocked that they actually have to do some work. WOW… what a concept!

I am convinced that we are all being to ask to stretch in our personal and professional lives. Whether it’s a person who has been laid off and looking for the next gig, a business person who is reinventing how they introduce their product and services into the market, or an organization that is striving to stay relevant in the new normal. The truth of the matter is that everyone and everything must STRETCH.

The skill of stretching was not taught in school but must be acquired in the heat of the moment. If you are being stretched it’s because you have the capacity to grow. If you are being stretched, stop complaining and embrace it. When you stopped being stretched than it’s time to pack up your tent and start writing your obituary. Here are few ways to be stretched…

Go the extra mile – When I worked for the Disney Corporation, one of the greatest places that I ever had worked for in my life, I learned this process called “plus-it-up.” The purpose was to give something extra for the 1% of the general public that would notice it and comment. This strategy is what enables Disney in all of its lines of business to charge a premium. I will stop there less I have the Mickey Mouse police send me a magic-gram. However, you get the point. What can you do to go the extra mile, not just for purpose of metrics, revenue, or bragging rights? But to send a message to your internal team that this is the new world order and to the external world you will always go above and beyond.

Listen to a weekly webinar on your area of expertise – You should be the best of the best in your field. Hearing the latest thinking from other thought leaders will only sharpen your insights. It will also give you a fresh perspective from another angle or empower you to offer an opposing view.

Volunteer your time with a non-profit organization – what else needs to be said. Live to give and you may discover how giving stretches your living.

Be Brilliant,

STB

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Five Ways to Be Confident in the Midst of Uncertainty

Welcome to the greatest year of your life. The events that will shape you are yet unknown, the global economic climate is uncertain, and everything outside of your control may seem unstable.

That is incredible news. There are several things you could do about this situation, but I invite you to focus and execute.

Here’s what I mean:  A teacher was working with his students in the art of archery. He set a wooden bird as the target and asked his students to aim at the eye of the bird. The first student was asked to describe what he saw. He said, “I see trees, branches, the leaves, the sky, the bird, and its eye.” The teacher then asked the second student the same question: “What do you see?” This student said, “I only see the eye of the bird.” The teacher said, “Very good. Shoot.” The second student’s arrow flew straight and hit the eye of the bird.

Until you focus, you cannot hit the target. As you think about your life, your business, and your career, here are five ways for you to be focused and confident:

Welcome to the Recommendation Economy. With the rise of, people organically recommend, like, and share their personal opinions. The internet has made word-of-mouth feedback digitally verifiable. With just a touch, a swipe, or a few clicks, anyone in the world can find out what others are saying about you, your brand, and the value of your product. According to the Local Consumer Review Survey (2012), approximately 72% of consumers surveyed said that they trust online reviews as much as personal recommendations, while 52% said that positive online reviews make them more likely to use a local business.

Focus on how you will create a brilliant moment for every person who crosses your path—and particularly your online presence. Then ask those individuals to give you a recommendation that you can use online. Click to see an example of what I’m talking about.  If I can do it, then you can, too.

If you intend to be relevant in this global economy, then consider developing a new skill that can benefit you. Consider what you know already and think of ways you can expand upon your knowledge. For example, in twenty-five years, I have worked for six different companies in ten different jobs. Each employer and job gave me skills and knowledge that are benefiting me now in my own business.

Combine the different elements of your skills, know-how, genius, and proven solutions to be relevant in a fast-changing world. The benefits of being a hybrid allows you to be more collaborative, communicative, and creative.

In her book 11 Rules of Creating Value in the Social Era Ms. Merchant says, “Strategy as a separate concept from execution is a relic of the past. It is something that was created when organizations needed structure to direct people who didn’t have much education, where information was limited, and when markets and competitors moved slowly.” She goes onto say that we need to shift our approach from telling the strategy to co-creating it, so that the strategy is owned throughout the organization.

Here is the takeaway for you: Do you understand the “big picture” of your business and the thousands of choices that impact long-term results? If you do, then what about your team? Do they hold the same understanding? Be open, share as much as you can, and constantly get a pulse check to ensure proper alignment among your cohort.

For example, the head honchos at Rackspace, an IT hosting company in cloud computing, don’t really want their employees to have a job—they want their employees to have a life. Their strategy is built on core values such as results first; that is, substance over flash. They are committed to greatness, full disclosure, transparency, and a passion for work, and by carrying out these values every day, they determine the talent the folks at Rackspace attracts and the results they generate.  Click here to see what makes the Rackspace brains brilliant.

Could it be time for you to rethink your strategy? If so, solicit input from those who know you and care about you. My friend, Mark Repkin, invited me to do it, and now I can’t wait to see how this new strategy unfolds over the next year.

Shift Into Customer Science – Jim Clifton, Chairman of Gallup, says, “What customers at any level really want is somebody who deeply understands their needs and becomes a trusted partner or advisor. In other words, know more about your customer than anyone else.” (I love Clifton’s book – The Coming Jobs War It’s a must read.)

This concept is also proven in the competitive New York City restaurant industry. In a recent New York Times article, “What Restaurant Know (About You),” it is said that “hundreds of restaurants are now carefully tracking their patrons’ tastes, how much you ordered, tipped, and whether you were a table hog who lingered long after dessert.” This information is vital in a cutthroat industry. The purpose is to make the customers feel “the love” and recreate “The Cheers effect”—referring to the 1980s television sitcom about the Boston bar where “everybody knows your name.”

Do you know your best customers’ birthdays and anniversaries?  Do you know the special people in their lives or what makes them tick? Learning the little—and big–details can help you build your business and further cement your relationship with your cusomter.

Average is dead. History. Gone and never to be seen again—may it forever rest in peace. It had a short life span, thankfully. It lived from January 1, 2012, and departed the universe on December 31, 2012. It has now been replaced by “Bring it,” which means stop talking about what you are going to do. Find your inner madagascar and move it…move it…get to it.” Simply put, be you. Be more. Be Brilliant!

There is no room anymore for the status quo. Your personal brand is on the line and you will have to show up, step up, and over deliver every second of the day. If you can’t “bring it” no one will relate to you or remember you, let alone recommend you—and why should they? Put yourself on the line. As the athletes would say, leave it all on the field. In the “bring it” economy, in the words of Seth Godin, “Small is the new big.” Focus on better by taking small steps everyday instead of racing to get bigger.

Here are the benefits to those who “Bring it:”

You won’t have to ask people to like you on Facebook, follow you on Twitter, or repin your images on Pinterest. They will automatically do it.

Your mind will begin to notice the uncommon in the common.

You attract new relationships that stretch your thinking and expand your capacity to make a bigger difference in the world.

You shift into an environment where you are valued for your contribution instead of for your tolerance for being present.

Yes, my friend, focus and execution is possible when you decide to be confident in the midst of uncertainty. How? By protecting the most important economy—the one between your ears.

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Meaningful Work is the New Bottom line

Professor Teresa Amabile at Harvard School of Business and Independent researcher Steven Kramer did a ten-year study of the 12,000 electronic diary entries from 238 professionals in seven different companies.

They discovered that one third of the entries showed individuals that were unhappy, unmotivated or both. Their research shows that inner work life has a profound impact on workers’ creativity, productivity, commitment and connectivity. When they peeled back the onion to better understand what drives brilliance, they discovered it was meaningful work.

What is meaningful work? It’s being inspired to go above and beyond in what you are doing.

It’s having your head, heart, and hands engaged in an intellectual jigsaw puzzle to solve a problem and create a solution.

It’s working for a leader who understands how to convey the spirit of the mission in addition to the mechanics of the mission.

It’s an individual who wants to take personal ownership for the brand and become it.

Rosabeth Moss Kanter, professor at Harvard Business School said in a recent Harvard Business Review “Great companies identify something larger than transactions or business portfolios to provide purpose and meaning.

Meaning-making is a central function of leaders, and purpose gives coherence to the organization.” I believe that meaning-making is understanding what makes employees tick and employees being in an environment to make a brilliant difference.

Corporations and businesses must reconnect men and women to the meaning of making widgets, selling products, or providing services instead of just making widgets.

This is not a dress rehearsal. You don’t get a do over.  If you don’t like what you are doing from 9-5, 3-11, 11-7, then you are missing the meaning of life. Create an exit strategy and find meaning and happiness somewhere else. You are taking up room for someone else that could be 100% engaged. If you like what you do, but no longer like who you work for, then do yourself a favor and create plan to shift gears.

If you are a manager, do you really know how to release the brilliance of your direct reports or motivate them? If not, then ask them the following question in the spirit of the movie Jerry Maguire – Help me Help You – “what can I do to help you release your brilliance?”

If you are an employee, remember that no corporation or place of business is the ultimate utopia. You are responsible for your own meaningful happiness. Find it. No one can give it to you. It will not drop out of the sky like an apple. You will have to roll your sleeves up, open your mind, step out of your comfort zone and stretch yourself.

This sums up the importance of meaningful work…

“When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: ‘If you live each day like it was your last, someday you’ll certainly be right.’ It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: If today were my last day of my life would I want to do what I am about to do today? And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know that I need to change something.”  Steve Jobs.

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Be Audacious

Audacious individuals…

Exude positive energy…

Live the brand 24/7…

People want to follow them with or without an official title…

Attract attention in a crowded room without saying anything…

Highly intuitive – always dialed into what is happening real-time…

Are open to expanding their worldview…

Operates with tacit knowledge – They don’t know how or why they know a certain thing, they just know.  There is no app that you can download to gain this type of information. It’s way beyond the data.

Something shifts inside of you when you are in their presence.

Agents of change – They are not afraid of change. In fact, they create it.

Audacious individuals are willing to walk alone but are never lonely. Worry is foreign to them since they de-emotionalize themselves by keeping a cool head when surrounded by chaos.

Audacious men and women intentionally feed their spirit with what is possible instead of what is not possible. Knowing that the possibility carries within it, what thought leader, Tony Miller calls the power of fulfillment.

Okay, I will land the plane. Harvey Mackay shares a powerful insight about the Japanese Koi Fish which has unlimited growth potential. When the Koi fish is put into a small fish bowl it will only grow two-three inches.

When it is put into a larger tank or even small pond it will grow six to ten inches.

If placed in even a bigger pond it will grow to one and half feet. Finally, if it is put into a large lake where it can really stretch out, it will grow to three feet. The size of the fish is proportional to the size of its environment.

Audacious men and women like yourself understand they in life and business, you will grow in direct proportion to the size of the environment you choose to live in. Be audacious. What other choice do you really have in a world that craves conformity.

Lead, Love, and Live Brilliantly,

Simon T. Bailey

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Rejection is the Greatest Gift in the World

Yesterday, I received a rejection email. It came from a business agent who had pitched my presentation to one of my industry’s premiere organizations; she’d given me a shot to share my expertise with the crème de la crème of industry leaders. This is a stage that has been graced by the top one percent of all speakers, thought leaders, and authors in the world; this opportunity would be considered the “TED Talk” of my particular sector. Once you speak for this organization, the rest is history:  You essentially print money for the rest of your life. Perhaps that claim is only a legend, but I do know that most of my contemporaries have appeared before this esteemed body.

The rejection email from my agent was short but encouraging: I’m so sorry. They did not select you this year. Their terrible loss!!! I will suggest you again with my next proposal next year.” I wrote back, “This is exciting news. I am so happy you told me that they didn’t select me. Now I am going to take my game to the next level.” Well, what my agent didn’t know was that this is the third year in a row I’ve been rejected by this particular group. Two other agents had pitched me to the organization in prior years.

In fact, I personally know one of this organization’s key decision makers and have wished him a happy birthday over the years. I know some of the folks on the committee and have worked all the angles in an attempt to be accepted into “the club.”

Well, I am done trying to fit in. I’m through seeking acceptance. Have you ever felt like you were standing at the bus stop of life, only to watch the bus pass you by and keep going? You find yourself left with a disconcerted look on your face that says, What the H-E-double-hockey-sticks just happened here?

Even though I responded to the agent’s email about the rejection in a matter of seconds and with a positive manner, as reality sank in, the disappointment of not being chosen was unsettling. This experience had taken the wind out of my sails, so to calm myself down, I re-read the book, The Game of Life and How to Play It was by written by Florence Shinn in 1925.

In the book, Shinn makes this powerful statement: “The thing man seeks is seeking him—the telephone was seeking the bell.” All of sudden it clicked:  It was a Vuja de moment that was inviting me to shift from average thinking to brilliant living. I was seeking something that wasn’t seeking me. I needed to let it go and open up to what wanted to emerge and, more importantly, what belonged to me.

But what really struck me about this whole scenario was that for the last three years, I had submitted my video to the organization with all the bells and whistles their submission criteria required. Before recording the video, I even made sure I was having a good hair day! But no, I had been passed over yet again. Had they spotted spinach in my teeth? Who knows?

I wanted their approval; I sought their validation. I wanted confirmation that I was being invited into the club of rare air to walk among the gods of the speaking industry, and to impress others by being able to say, “I’ve spoken for the So-and-So Organization.”

In my warped mind, I had convinced myself that entry into this organization would be my rite of passage. This would be my golden ticket to fame and fortune. How had I become so intoxicated, inauthentic, and incongruent with who I am and how I operate? The organization that rejected me for the third time has done me a huge favor, because now I am moving on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Enough of this crying over spilled milk. In fact, I am skywriting in my mind, “I AM Brilliant”—and guess what? So are you. I didn’t need this organization to give me the Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval. I was born in brilliance to be brilliant. In fact, my new name is “O Brilliant One!” (Okay, that’s a bit dramatic, over-the-top, and pompous. However, if you don’t recognize your own brilliance, then NO ONE ELSE WILL.)

Out of this disheartening situation, here’s what I did:  I chose to bless the decision-makers of the organization with positive words, and I wished all those other speakers who they had selected a brilliant future. And I encourage you to do the same:  Whoever has rejected you this year or in times past, bless them and wish them the best. Send positive vibes their way. You don’t need the negative energy you’d otherwise incur, and there is simply too much work to do now.

As we approach another Thanksgiving and Christmas season, we should accept rejection, bless it, and move on. In fact, we should thank the following:

All of those who de-friended you on Facebook. Bless them and wish them a brilliant future.

Thank you to all those who stop following you on Twitter. Bless them, too, and wish them a brilliant future.

Thank you to those didn’t do business with you. Those who rejected your pricing, your proposal, and your value. Be so grateful and thankful that they found their happiness elsewhere.

Bless all of those who didn’t return your call, who ignored your e-mail, deleted your text, or didn’t post a comment on your blog.

Bless the company that didn’t hire you and wish them a brilliant future.

Bless the homeowner who didn’t list his home with you and wish him a brilliant future.

Bless the boss who gave you a less than stellar review. It won’t change her, but it will change how you choose to see her.

Thank you, Rejection, because you are an amazing teacher who invites us to look within and decide how we will soar to the next level. My friend Willie Jolley says that “a setback is a setup for a comeback.” Boom! There it is.

Give thanks because you are finally waking up to the reality that rejection is the greatest gift in the world.

Lead, Love, and Live Brilliantly,

Simon T. Bailey

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Where’s Your Oomph?

Exceeding expectations is possible since there is a gravitational pull to be average. No matter what you are responsible for in life, accelerate your actions above and beyond what is expected or required. It’s really possible.

In other words, show drive and some oomph.” Meeting expectations simply isn’t enough anymore. If you’re only doing what is required, are you doing your best? Not likely. Doing the bare minimum translates to average, mediocre – just like everyone else. Bare minimum is weak.

Where there is no oomph, there is no joy. Where there is no oomph, there is no hope, and where there is no oomph, there is no passion.

Without passion, a job is just a job. A marriage is just two roommates sleeping in the same bed, sharing bills while living under the same roof.

A business is simply something to do instead of something that makes a brilliant difference in the world. But when you find your oomph, you find your joy, and when you find your joy, you find freedom. And when you find freedom, you find your chutzpah.

Here are five quick tips for you to unleash your oomph in business and life :

  •  Each moment is an opportunity to create stickiness (surprise and delight) with your customers. When I worked at Disney, they called it a magic moment. Today, I call it a brilliant moment.
  •  Take the initiative to ensure that every customer knows that you care and are willing to help them. Remember they determine what is valuable to them so pay attention to the cues when listening to them.
  •  Determine the highest and best use of your time. Escape from e-jail and manage your e-mail.
  •  Ask your leader, what is it that you can do to help them or make their job easier. This is the new form of kissing up. It’s called – career insurance instead of job security.
  • A genius is a person who shoots at something no one else can see – and hits it. What is your target? Go for it Oh Brilliant One.

The following is an excerpt from my new book – The Vuja de Moment – Shift from Average to Brilliant.

Invest in a copy or buy a gift  for someone you know at Barnes & Noble.com http://ow.ly/fbTw7 and it can be downloaded into Amazon’s Kindle.

Live Brilliantly,

Simon T. Bailey

 

 

 

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Executive Presence: It’s All About the Intangibles

In his article “Executive Presence:  Have and Have Nots,” Ron Crossland, Vice Chair of Bluepoint Leadership, says, “When great communication ability collides with an authentic leader who has genuine heart for constituents and the organization’s collective aspirations, then […] we have individuals who have the potential to move from good to elite.”

I recently visited with an elite leader—Paula Costa Bravo—because I was curious to find out how this well educated Brazilian-born woman navigated the dicey waters of corporate America, particularly as someone who is relatively new in her leadership role. I asked her how she was surviving since her company had just laid off hundreds of people.

She looked at me and, without missing a beat, said that it’s all about “mastering the intangibles and establishing an executive presence.” I sat staring like a deer in the headlights, then realized that she was about share some pearls of wisdom. I took out my iPhone and feverishly started taking notes.

She started by saying that during times of uncertainty, executives must transfer security and confidence to their direct reports, other departments, peers, and customers. Paula went on to share five critical intangibles she’s learned—not in business school, but in the trenches.

When you enter a room, what is your posture? Your shoulders should be erect, not slouched. Your pace should be swift but not hurried. These subtle adjustments send a micro-message that what is about to transpire in this meeting is important. Additionally, eye contact and a simple greeting should be given to set the tone for the meeting. When appropriate, an authentic smile loosens the tension in the room and invites everyone to relax as you proceed with business.

Have you ever seen someone who always appears frumpy and disheveled? Someone who is smart and has a good work ethic, but always looks like a “hot mess”? I remember years ago when one of my adopted sisters told me, “Simon, you can always judge a woman by her black pumps.” She told me that if the heel is scraped and the shoes look run-down, it speaks volumes about how much a woman cares about herself and maybe even how she runs her business. The same goes for men. This isn’t a new idea:  If you have read the classic book by John T. Malloy, then you are familiar with proper dress code.

However, nowadays, with more people telecommuting and working virtually, do you think how you dress impacts your attitude or approach to work? Send me an e-mail and let me know your thoughts mailto:simon@simontbailey.com”>simon@simontbailey.com

When I was growing up in Buffalo, New York (go Bills, this could be the year!), I would walk into the kitchen first thing in the morning and open the refrigerator without saying a word to my mother. I swear, if her eyes were guns, I would have been dead. She would clear her throat and say pointedly, You know, I didn’t sleep with you last night.” More than a little shocked, I would say, “Wow, Mom, what a visual.”

She’d made her point with that sarcastic statement:  It didn’t cost me anything to say good morning. The same holds true for people who walk by you every day in your place of business; you may not know their name or their purpose, but saying good morning to each person is respectful. Or how about when you get on an elevator, or when you’re riding up an escalator? Do you greet others, or do you pretend that everyone around you is invisible? Some folks greet others, and some don’t.  Sure:  not speaking may simply mean that you’re wrapped up in your own thoughts. Then again, others may take your silence for a dis; while you don’t mean anything by your reticence, there are others who are saying to themselves, “Oh, no, he didn’t—!”

Okay, I know what you’re thinking:  Simon is asking me to become some kind of raging extrovert on steroids! No, I’m not. I just want you to think about how you are perceived and what messages are being transmitted by your verbal and non-verbal cues. That’s why Paula’s insight was so amazing:  it got me thinking about the said and the unsaid. But wait, there’s more.

When she said this, I was stunned because I have often wondered why some people with okay credentials get ahead, get promoted, get added to a committee, or become the go-to person, while others who have the right pedigree seem to stay stuck in neutral. Then I recalled that women have two problems with men:  We don’t talk, and we rarely listen. When we do talk, it’s all about us; and when we do listen, it’s selective hearing. I am totally guilty on both counts, and I’m working on getting better.

The bottom line is very simple:  You have to connect through asking vs. telling. Giving vs. receiving. Having a phone conversation vs. e-mailing. Why? Behind content is intent. The delivery system is as important as the message. I know that this is totally old school in the midst of instant messages and texting. Yes, you can communicate using these quick methods—but is there really a connection? You be the judge. I’m just sayin’…isn’t there still room for the “high-touch” in the midst of high-tech euphoria?

Paula then almost knocked me out of my chair by saying that when one masters the intangibles, he or she discovers the secret sauce:  that success is about 60% presence, 20% visual, and 20% content. She said that the presence part is the most believable—right, wrong, or indifferent—because there has been a ton of upfront time put into whatever message that is truly being transferred during every interaction. This doesn’t mean that one slacks off in preparing substantive content. Bottom line, a congruent spirit seeks to serve and give instead of force-feeding his or her message.

Executive presence is a daily choice. It doesn’t matter if you lead a team, are an individual contributor, are self-employed, or are in transition. Just remember to think about how you are showing up every day. The intangibles create the foundation that establishes the brilliant difference you make.

Simon’s Book Recommendation:My friend Frans Johansson has written another stellar classic called The-Click-Moment-Opportunity-Unpredictable.

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Respect Has No Color

Life is amazing when you make a daily decision to be open, genuinely listen, and suspend your judgment of others. Recently, my family visited the amazing San Diego Zoo, and while were in the Rain Forest Aviary, another father heard me call my daughter’s name, which happens to be Madison. Turns out, he and his wife have a daughter named Madison, as well.

This serendipitous connection led to an indelibly memorable day. As our two families watched both young ladies build an instant and easy friendship—it was already clear that the girls were going to be inseparable—we decided to visit and get to know each other.

My wife and I learned that Boomer and his wife Bonnie were from a small town of less than 2,000 people outside of Billings, Montana, USA. He was in the mining business, and she was a nurse. For the next couple of hours, we all spent time walking around the San Diego Zoo, barely looking at the animals and keenly asking questions and learning about one another’s lives.

It’s amazing: As I talked to Boomer, I realized that we thought along the same lines when it came to the taboo topics of religion and politics. It didn’t matter that he was white and I was black. Nor did it matter that I was from the city, while he was from the country. We suspended whatever hang-ups we might have had because our daughters and my son were playing and talking as if they had known each other for years.

As we said our goodbyes, our daughters exchanged phone numbers and promised to stay in contact. I got Boomer’s e-mail address and told him I’d keep in touch. Then I mentioned to him that I would like to take my son on a fly fishing trip soon. Without batting an eye, he said, “If you ever fly into Montana, let me know. I’ll pick you up from the airport, and you can stay at our house.”

I was not asking for this—I simply wanted to know the best places to go for fly fishing—and I was truly blown away that a complete stranger would extend this type of hospitality. What a priceless experience, to be the recipient of such generosity! Whether we ever see Boomer, Bonnie, and Madison again, one thing is for sure: I am convinced now more than ever before that respect, courtesy, and kindness has no color.

Each of us has the ability to connect with others if we really want to. Some people stay in their bubble because it’s safe, comfortable, and familiar. But when we choose to connect with someone who doesn’t look like us or can’t do anything for us, this is when we truly learn that we are all human beings seeking to be respected, valued, and appreciated.

I just felt compelled to share this with you, O Brilliant One.

Live Brilliantly!

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