Maximizing Your QE Factor (Part 2): Who are you with?
Welcome back, O’Brilliant One!
Recently, I shared with you what it means to have a high “QE (Qualified to be Exceptional) factor,” or your potential to be exceptional, and we explored the first condition you should cultivate in order to increase your own QE factor. (If you haven’t answered the two questions I posed to you at the end of the previous blog, I highly encourage you to go back and do that now before moving on to the next condition.)
Now that you’ve examined where you are, you should now consider who you are with. Developing quality relationships is the second distinct condition you can cultivate to increase your QE factor.
Quality Relationships. Relationships are the currency of your future, and the core theme and purpose of all social engagement is to create a relationships. That is why www.facebook.com, www.twitter.com, and www.linkedin.com thrive—millions of people take the time to grow and nurture their networks.
We no longer have to send a message in a bottle, write a letter or handwritten note, or release a carrier pigeon to transport our thoughts. In just a few strokes on our mobile phones, we can build and maintain relationships.
Men and women with high QE factors prefer a group of quality friends with whom they can build deep roots instead of a quantity of folks who are like leaves—easily swept away by the winds of change.
Just because someone likes your Facebook post, retweets your 140-character statement, or shares your video doesn’t mean they are building a quality relationship.
Quality people are in your life when the chips are down.
Quality people are not hooked on drama.
Quality people say what they mean and mean what they say.
Quality people are comfortable being alone because they are qualified to be exceptional, thus they are not often lonely.
Here are a few guidelines for quality relationships:
- Men and Women who see themselves as having a high QE factor love others at the expense of self because love it not what it says–it is what it does.
- Quality Relationships are a judge-free zone. Your quality relationships accept you for who you instead of they want you to be.
- Quality Relationships understand how to listen between the sentences and value the power of silence. This is called “meta-listening.” This is the ability to tap into one’s intuitive sense by giving voice to what is yet unspoken.
- Quality Relationships happen when individuals decide to velcro themselves to another for what they can give instead of what they can get.
- Quality Relationships are like a fine wine. They only get better with time.
- Quality relationships are not forced; they ebb and flow accordingly to life.
Developing and maintaining quality relationships is one of the most important principles I wish to convey to my children. If you have a dream, idea, or concept that requires a financial investment, more than a loan, you need a quality relationship. Be a multimillionaire in relationships. If you have a relationship, you can secure the necessary resources.
In opposition to quality relationships, there are some relationships that are like weeds.
These grow in the garden and suck out the life out everything that you are doing. Weed relationships have disqualified themselves from your life.
The only way they can re-enter your life is—in the words of my friend Terry Watson—they have to requalify.
Why? Well, the quality of your future is determined by the quality of people around you. People with high EQ factors associate with like-minded individuals who expand each other’s breadth and depth.
Can you think of any weed relationships that drain the life out of you? These people are reducing your QE factor. Focus on disqualifying these individuals from your life. Once you’ve weeded out these relationships from your life, you’ll be ready to move on to the third distinct condition you can cultivate to increase your QE factor.